Dear Friends,

One of my absolute favorite human beings is a recovered alcoholic. He once told me that he was raised by the CIA. Catholic Irish Alcoholics. 😂 He is a quote machine.

Here is a more recent quote of his: “Rock bottom has a basement — it’s called desperation!” What an observation. Rock bottom implies you are as low as you can get; people often wait to hit this place before they start acting.

I’ve seen plenty of people who seem to have reached their rock bottom, but they find a way to descend to their basement level. It is crazy how long we humans will procrastinate so as not to change our habits, even if they are killing us.  

That is how comfortable we can become in our own hell. In mind, body, and soul. To reach your full potential, you have to be willing to break out of your shell and ask for help. No one can ask for you. But the people in your life come and go just when you need them. There are souls around you that — in some way, shape, or form — are here to support and teach you, and vice versa.

I have found that those who reach a “rock bottom” in their life think that they need to figure things out on their own; that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Good luck with that. Reinvent that wheel over and over and you will continue to circle the drain.

If you are willing to help somebody, then you should be willing to accept help also. I love how Christ is called “THE WAY.” He, as Peter Frampton sang, can “SHOW me the WAY.”  But He can’t DO it for you. Whatever your faith, North Star, or spiritual guide, asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but strength. It is a sign that you are willing to put skin in the game and improve your lot in life. That guidance may come from prayer, or meditation, or the helping hand of a living spirit around you.

So don’t wait ‘til you are in the basement to dig out of a hole. It is much easier to manage life from upstairs, where there are bright windows to spot the light and the WAY.

Peace,

Dr. D